Taylor's Turn

I really wanted to focus on catching you all up on Taylor.  We're going to have lots to come on Lauren, since her first CI surgery is only 8 days away. 

Taylor has had quite a year!  She has been in the special ed preschool here in town this year.  She loves going to school and seems to have a great time.  She sees the deaf educator twice a week and has speech twice a week during her preschool time.  We have all seen great improvement in her articulation.  She has just learned so much.  We are now 5 weeks away from turning 4 years old. 

We did some testing around the 2 year, 6 month listening age mark.  For the Expressive Vocabulary Test and the PPVT, she tested like the average 5 yr 7 mo to 6 year old, respectively, or in the 99th percentile.  Amazing. I never would have believed it possible three years ago.  What a blessing in my heart as we approach Lauren's surgery.  

What a year "3" has been!  We celebrated her 3rd birthday at Table Rock Lake and Branson.  We had family birthday parties at the lake.  We rode go-carts and waterslides in Branson, rollercoasters at Silver Dollar City, and took a skiboat out of the lake.  The girl is fearless!  Last summer, just as she turned three, she was doing dives and flips into the pool.  We utilized a water-proofing and swim cap method for her to use so that she could keep at least one CI on while swimming.  It was a great summer. 

We took a family ski vacation in January.  Taylor went to ski school two days, and skiied with us another 3 days.  She seems to be a born skiier.  I'm going to have to take some lessons myself so that she and Derek don't pass me up in a couple of years.

We are moving to a suburb of Wichita next month, so new schools are being explored.  The IEP renewal meeting is scheduled for May 11.  Next year, we are planning to have her go to a wonderful Christian pre-school for three half-days per week and supplement with some AVT/speech services.  We did her testing for the new school district that we are moving to last week, and she did exceptionally well.  I think I know more about what to ask for...  we'll see.  As a parent, I am continually learning more about how to advocate for her and how to describe her uniqueness. 

Sometimes I wish the CI's were invisible.  I don't want CI's to affect other's perception of Taylor.  Especially in the academic setting, I don't want the visual reminder to cause teachers to underestimate her abilities.  I was really nervous about that last year as she entered the public school system.  I'm not sure what their (the teachers) perception of her was at time.  I do know that now they realize and acknowledge how well she is doing.  I'm thankful to the wonderful ladies that have worked with her this year - Misti, Deb, Ani, Brittney and the para's too (wish I knew all of their names). 

I have a feeling it won't be too long before Taylor wishes they were invisible.  The other day, she said "Mommy, when I grow up, I won't have 'ears' anymore."  I hope we find a way to always make it positive as she grows.  Even as a toddler/pre-schooler, she is obsessed with growing up and always talking about what that means -- getting married, having a baby (named Lauren), being a doctor (like her daddy), wearing makeup (like her mommy)...  you name it, she's thought of it.  That day, she had noticed that she had 'ears' and I didn't.  We make the 'ears' as cute as possible, with all of the Cochlear decorative covers and headbands matched to her outfits.  We'll talk through it more when the time comes.  For now, she's pretty excted that her little sister is getting ears just like hers. 

My favorite words to describe Taylor:

Loving

Brave

Beautiful

Brilliant

Fun

Generous

Stubborn

Rockstar

Taylor with her fish she caught and a turtle at her feet

Taylor and Aunt Melissa

Taylor and our nanny Sheena

Our daughter is deaf?!?!

Taylor, Born June 4, 2008. 6 pounds, 11 oz. She was welcomed into this world by an older brother, Derek, age 17 months. Derek didn't pass his newborn hearing screening when he was born. At the follow-up exam when he was one-month old, he passed... whew, no more worries for the new parents. By the time Taylor was born, Derek was talking away. When Taylor didn't pass her newborn hearing screening, we weren't concerned. After all, the same thing had happened with Derek, 17 months earlier. No family history of deafness. Taylor proceeded to amaze us with how fast she progressed; she was very attentive early on, smiling early, laughing whole-heartedly at her brother by 3 months old... She has the most magical laugh. I hope it doesn't change once she can "hear" with the cochlear implants. Taylor was ahead of the milestones on physical development, across the board. She started walking at just over 10 months. She was also so very social and in tune with everyone in her environment. As her parents, we started to get concerned at around 8 months when we noticed that her babbling wasn't changing. She made raspberries noises, and would cough or smack her lips in imitation of us, but there weren't any word-like pronunciations such as mama, dada, baba, etc. We made an appointment to get her hearing re-tested by an audiologist at 11 months. She again did not pass the OAE exam. The audiologist suggested that we wait another two months and see if we could tell if she understood any words that we said, regardless of what Taylor was speaking to us. She just didn't think that Taylor acted like a deaf child. (More on that later...) At that point, my husband and I were very seriously concerned, and we realized that whether she had a hearing problem or not wasn't something that we were going to wait another two months on... 13 months! No way. We made an appointment with an ENT to analyze Taylor further. Her ears appeared to be in excellent condition. He again said the same thing as the audiologist had -- she didn't act like a deaf child. Hmmm. This is a child with no history of ear infections or fevers; she has never even had a cold. He referred us to a center in Wichita for further testing of her hearing. We called to immediately schedule an appointment, but it was almost a month for them to get us in. June 8, 2009 was the day. We had our ABR test. In babies, the most effective way to test their hearing is to conduct an Auditory Brainstem Response test. Basically, they put the child to sleep with anesthesia, emit sounds to the ears and test for brainwaves. Prior to the test, two audiologists observed Taylor and how she interacted with them, toys, stuffed animals, and cell phones. Again, one of the audiolgists commented to us that it appeared Taylor had heard something she said. Well, the results of the test were simple: No brain waves shown at any point, at any decibel level. She is profoundly deaf.